It’s coming up to Christmas, that time of the year when people wrap themselves up in a box and jump out naked to surprise someone…or do they? There are a lot of gift guides, gift ideas and other things floating about around Christmas time, but how many people actually think to give of themselves?
I was thinking just today that time is the most precious gift you can give someone. If you are anything like me you could really do with a Vitamix, or a health insurance – something really practical. This helps a lot when you aren’t making the big bucks, but it’s not what you truly want in your heart. What you truly want from people is, in a sense, both them and you. That sounds weird I know, but think about it – if you care about someone the most precious gift they can give you is their time, as well as their love. And if they give their love they are showing you a part of yourself that they love. They are giving you the gift of seeing yourself through their eyes. if they take time spending time with you, doing something you’d love, they are once again, in a sense, allowing you to explore a part of yourself that you love.
I don’t know about you, but I grew up not liking myself very much – I was teased in school and my step mom didn’t like me and as a result I was living in a shell, completely withdrawn – so when people were nice to me, I was always stunned and it meant the world to me. When people complimented me, not just my talents, but me as a person I didn’t quite believe them, but I held onto it and hoped it was true with all my might.
When you are in a pit of grey you have no idea how much a genuine compliment can mean to someone. How it can change their whole world around. How it can give them hope to carry on and the idea that maybe, just maybe, there’s a brighter tomorrow. Many people are in abusive relationships simply because the so-called love they get from their partner is the most love they have ever been given, or the love they think they are worth. If they had more love within themselves they’d choose a different path. They wouldn’t be scared to leave the little they have because they’d know they are worth so much more. With every genuine, heartfelt, compliment you can fill someone with love. You can make them see their own beauty. You can give them the gift of seeing themselves for who they really are and once they can see that they can become that. We all have the potential to be radiant beings but too many of us have forgotten that we have that choice. We forget that we are all beautiful hearts.
You know Christmas is about three guiding stars and to me love is a great symbol for those stars, because love, ultimately, is your best guide. If you use love as your guide you will end up in the best places. If you let fear, lack, and other things dominate you, your sight will be clouded. To be guided by love though you first have to find it within you and if someone can help you do that it’s a very precious gift.
If you have a kind word – use it. If you can give a hug – do it. If you have smile – share it. You don’t know where the person is coming from and what it means to them. If you really like someone you might want to try jumping out naked from a box on Christmas morning, but even with strangers this Christmas try giving them the gift of love…only with your clothes on…