In Swedish that actually also means plus minus six, but I’m going to be talking about something different. I.e. the English meaning…and the difference in that. You know you want to right? I mean you want the difference. You want the opposite sex. Preferably served naked with whipped cream on top and bubbly on the side (or am I just thinking aloud here? Ahem. Mind you, if I was thinking aloud I’d add strawberries and subtract the bubbly…I like ‘em without distractions…oh and that was me thinking out loud.)
Most of us have been in love, or “in attraction” with someone at one point or another. They are rather interesting phenomena whereupon you want to get as close to another human being as humanly possible. When it comes to love it’s as close as possible in mind, body and soul and when it comes to attraction it’s as close as possible body wise only. However, we have all, from time to time, suffered “love colds” (a variation on the theme of the normal cold), with symptoms such as “I want to reject you because I love you,” but that’s another story for a sunny day (given it’s pretty rainy today…).
It has been brought to my attention lately, that a lot of women, myself included, sometimes complain about men. It’s usually when a man and a woman both have gotten smitten with the “in love” phenomena, or just one of them suffer from it. Men are peculiar as they often suffer from the in love phenomena at the same time as they suffer from the in attraction phenomena and the in attraction phenomena is with another woman than the in love phenomena, or with all the rest of the world’s women. I have recently considered setting up a new branch of AA – Ass Addiction Anonymous.
Actually, let’s talk about ass addiction for a while, as many men seem to suffer from it and women suffer from their suffering. So, what it is, is that men naturally suffer from this. It’s in their genes – they were wired that way. All the women out there – let them stare at asses as you are out shopping, then take them home and let them feel yours. It’s the best cure. Really. They will get even more addicted to that which they can feel. Especially if you sometimes put them on a probation period at the same time as you are wearing mini-skirts for a week and sending them dirty text messages about what they will get to do when the probation period is over (I never thought of that when I had a boyfriend…hot damn..well the next one will get it…hot..!).
Women suffer from ass addiction too, they just don’t seem to feel it as strongly as men, because they are wired slightly differently. There is nothing wrong with this type of ass addiction, so long as we all know where our heart belongs.
For others, women included, ass addiction is nothing but ego – they need to know that they can have any man or woman any time they like and as they don’t feel secure in themselves knowing this, they have to act it out. So they are addicted to asses for real. Some people are natural charmers, but that’s rather different – they enjoy people and making people feel good about themselves. When it comes to this certain type of ass addiction it’s the other way around – they enjoy knowing that people would shag them if they could, so they need to make everyone think about their ass. They charm people to feel charmed themselves, usually wasting a lot of people’s time, as no one can think straight when they are thinking about an ass.
Personally, I believe I have suffered from ass addiction in all its different shapes and forms and being pissed off with men for ass addiction in all its different shapes and forms…the addiction that is, not the asses…I like one kind in particular…. ;0)
The thing with being in attraction, or in love, is that we are so because there is a difference – our anatomies and personalities were built to complement one another and when we see something that we think/feel would complement us in particular we want it, we want to try each other out to see if we fit. The problem also lies here though. Why I hear women complain about men, is because they are different. They want them for the same reason they end up hating them (although hating is severe attraction gone severely wrong – that’s why “hate love” is so popular. It’s something you love, but when it goes wrong you hate it. “Hate like” doesn’t exist, because you don’t care enough to hate it. It’s also why people stay in hate love relationships – the love is too strong for them to give it up. I’d suggest a cure of “love sort out.”).
I don’t know, but to me it seems the main problem lies in communication. I don’t know how many stories I’ve heard from female friends where “he just went from totally into me, to the next day not replying to a text and I never saw him since.” And a variation on that theme is: “he suddenly disappeared, only to suddenly reappear.” For us women this is massively confusing as we do something called talking. Men don’t really do that. They do actions (see there’s a reason why they love action movies and we find them boring – they lack intelligent conversation, but they have intelligent action…if you consider fighting intelligent.). Of course, we love men for their action and men love us for the way we sweet talk them. The problem comes when there’s friction as the man will do actions and the woman will talk. All the men then say “I wish she would respect me and leave me alone and stop being so damn needy (to talk).” All the women then say “if he respected me, he would have told me what he was thinking and not just disappeared.” The thing is, if you do wanna work it out, if so only to keep the friendship (and when women lose that, that’s when they feel really upset as they feel disrespected as a person) you have to communicate, one way or another.
The disappearing and reappearing thing is simply because men want to be alone when they think (and as they are slow creatures, it can take them months) and women need to discuss things. So the men find the women clingy and the women find the men disrespectful.
The funny thing is, when things are working, women love men because they are different – they will hug them instead of talking to them. And men love women because they will tell them they like them, instead of only tearing their clothes off.
Plus attracts minus, but plus does not always understand minus. If plus and minus would only learn that they have to speak their minds, but maybe in languages that the other understand, then the war of the sexes may come to an end. In the meantime, I will enjoy the dirty fighting…metaphorically speaking…in reality I’d like a man who hugs me and then tells me why, tells me why and walks away, comes back and then tells me why. What a man would like me to do…well I guess he will have to tell me. In words. Then I’ll tear his clothes off in response…so he understands what I’m saying…