Do you ever feel like you need to make love to someone right this instance, or you will explode (or evaporate into a cloud of chocolate due to over consumption)? In the workshops I’ve been doing about intuition and the hero’s journey their way of explaining it is that tension seeks resolution, whether by means of sex, or chocolate, or something else. If you have a lot of built up sexual energy, or frustration in your life in one way or another, you will want to release it. That’s why you have such great make up sex – a lot of tension is directed towards…pleasure. (I could really do with some passionate make up sex right now, I’m just not sure who I’m gonna piss off? Maybe the next six-pack I come across. Because you see loads of those in the streets of London. Not. Try Malibu.)
So anyway I had a point with this beyond the sex. I often do. The problem is that it’s past midnight and I can’t remember what it was. Somewhere around Malibu I lost it. Potentially because right now my tension has more to do with lack of sunshine than lack of men. Men exist pretty much everywhere. Sunshine doesn’t. I’ve had visions of LA all day long. Where the hell was I? Right. Tension seeks resolution. So the whole point is to resolve your tension in a good way. In a way that benefits you. (Epiphany – I just remembered what I meant to say…I’ll soon get there…) Just because you have sexual energy build up, or frustration in another area doesn’t necessarily mean that you should go off and shag someone – you could paint, build a bridge, climb a mountain…or whatever it is you truly desire to do in life. (If everyone decided sex was the only way to seek resolution…crikey – imagine having a bad boss. The office would turn into a swinging club.)
Now, I’ve had a lot of tension recently because I realized, well, hell I do not wanna live as I have been living. And thus far I’ve been resolving the tension pretty marvelously if I may say so myself. I’ve been taking massive action to do what I would love, which is tell stories through writing and directing, help people – especially children, live in the sun and go on adventures as a traveller. In the future I would also love to make my stories realities by creating products and services that would make them so. One step at a time though.
Now my point, my point is that often when my tension seeks resolution I travel. I just go somewhere and everything gets better for a while. I love travelling. And it does give you a break from your surroundings which leave you with a clearer head when you return. Sometimes I take it further though and simply move countries. So what became obvious to me was that maybe, just maybe I shouldn’t have to do this. I mean I will continue to love traveling and exploring, adventure and what not, but I would love to create a life where I am living what I love, rather than having to move so as to get temporarily excited by something new (I really understand men who can’t settle with one woman – I have the same issue, but with where to live – everything’s tempting and just the one place leaves me slightly claustrophobic). So for me, what I know is wherever I go next, because I’m still pro going to the sun, I have to create something whereby it takes me further in my career as well. I want to write, direct movies and help people, kids in particular, so wherever I go it should take me however many steps closer to that. I.e. I can’t just fuck off to Africa, spend my money and then return empty-handed and heart-broken because I’m forced to leave the sun and a lifestyle where I made movies, wrote and helped people not because I was paid to do so, but because I was spending my savings to do so. I have to create a way of doing what I love and earn an income from it. So each move should be a step in that direction, unless I have time and money to spare to do something different.
I’m not sure if you have similar patterns – from ice cream to red wine, from romance novels to porn, from crazy work-outs to vacations, or sexcations – there’s a lot of stuff we do to resolve tension. We can resolve it by doing what we love and living the dream as well though and that’s the ultimate goal….i.e. let you heart, not your frustration, guide you. (I’m right now living my dream even by just writing this blog. The idea that people actually read it and ever so often gets something out of it, whether entertainment, an insight into another person’s life that brings a sense of understanding, some aha moment, or inspiration…that’s fucking fabulous!)
So yeah, I’m just gonna go and not fuck someone and not run off to the sunshine…I wanna have sex and go live in the sun, but in a way where I follow my heart rather than my…frustration. Love one step. Love two step. Love, love, love…
Love this poster…hilarious!!!