Really, do you? For sure? Are you sure?… Now I don’t know what it is YOU want. I’m still getting clear on what I want…it takes a bit of time sometimes, to really figure out what makes one’s heart sing. Some people get so caught up in the love they forget the sex, or so caught up in sex they forget the love…doesn’t mean they don’t want the other, they just got caught up in something else. Some people get caught up in money, others in relationships, some in fitness, others in social life…we all get a tad caught up here and there…so if only in Facebook…
At other times people say they want something, but they haven’t really thought it through. It’s one thing to say you want to climb Everest, but when you start thinking about what that MEANS, you may not want to…the exercise, the preparation, the cost, the things you have to go through, the cold, the lack of oxygen, the risks… As the old saying goes: be careful what you wish for…and if you do wish for something: do so with good intentions. Pray for it to arrive in a loving way.
It’s yet another thing to distinguish a want from a fantasy. So many times we hear people say: “I want to learn French, I want to date this girl, I want to have a threesome…” The thing is though…how many of these people take steps to achieve it? Figure out what needs to get done and go for it? Is it really a want? Or just a fantasy? If it’s a true want, if you aren’t achieving it, what’s stopping you? What limiting belief is holding you back? What other priority gets in the way from you to achieve it? How do you let go of what’s stopping you and turn it into something which is enabling it to happen right now?
Figure out what turns you on…and go get it…
Right now I would love to…I want to…yes, that’s my secret…hope you have some yummy secrets too…
I mean after all this blogging about sex I just have to give you the truth…wrapped up in a sexy, funny cover as always. I believe that’s my trademark. So here it comes peeps…ready?
I have met a lot of former addicts. Don’t ask me why. They tend to flock to me. Maybe because I hardly drink, I never smoked and I never did drugs. I’ve never had a hangover in my life. I’m a health freak and somehow I still manage to have a blast on the dance floor and I never have trouble with people’s opinion about my life choices. I have met so many people who have told me they can’t live like me because, what would their mates at the pub say? You know what? They don’t give a damn about your lifestyle, so long as you DON’T feel inferior about it, or judge others for their choices, and you prove you can still have fun with them. And they will invariably believe that your cranberry juice is a cranberry and vodka…
I used to be very addicted to success and artistry though. To hard work and to beauty and all other magical things in life. Like Michael Jackson I used to run around talking about “the magic, the beauty…” Yet, I was always sad. I felt broken on the inside, so I tried to fill the outside with beauty, with good times, what have you. To lose myself from the not so cool parts of my life at the time. So I can relate quite a lot. You can be addicted to other things than drugs, that’s for sure. (On the plus side I found out many things in life I love and am truly passionate about.)
I also used to get quite floored by successful people, until one day a man sat in my lap telling me that if he ever “only” made 100-150k a year he might as well kill himself. I began to see the other side of success. Brilliant minds will continue to fascinate me. People who think out of the box, people who have a vast knowledge about things, or people who understand something really well are incredibly stimulating to be around and can teach you a lot. A lot. However, if it comes together with a longing for success, so as to cover up some broken part of their heart…then the success will never make them happy. It will keep their ego afloat, but it won’t make them happy. And if they lose the success… (As I wrote that I almost kicked down my Buddha figure by mistake…ahem…)
Happiness is a lot more attractive than an outer shell. Yes, people who can make enough money to look after themselves are nice. They can survive. It brings you peace of mind. People who are aiming for success for the sake of success though…they are usually not happy. They don’t love themselves as they are, unconditionally. They think that only if they achieve this or that, whether that be being an athlete, or becoming a millionaire, or getting married…whatever, then they will love themselves.
When you feel lonely, or unloved, or inferior, or like you are untalented, or simply not accepted for one reason or another, as human beings we tend to want to fill that void…that not so happy feeling, or emptiness with something else. That’s why people who fall in love when they aren’t whole in themselves end up “needing” their partner in a way that’s more than satisfying the part of you that longs for a happy relationship, sharing life, love and sex. Instead it’s…a drug. Just like chocolate, instead of being a pleasure, becomes a drug. And so does sex, alcohol, work, exercise…what have you. It is something that takes us away from what we feel is a thorn in our heart. Or it’s things that make us relax so we forget about the thorn and fit in without feeling uncomfortable.
“If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen for you, to you and because of you.”~ T. Alan Armstrong
Maybe because I used to have a broken ego, I used to feel uncomfortable around people, I used to feel unloved, I used to think love was conditional and I used to lose myself in other things…maybe that’s why I meet all these people. To see myself and love myself, because believe me – even if I can see someone having more issues than the PR offices of Tiger Woods…I can still love them. Because I do see their beauty. They do make me smile. They are incredible people. They are just…a tad blind to their own wonder.
“Touching someone’s heart for a mere second; can touch their soul for a lifetime.”~Jody Patterson
For all the personal development I have studied and success theories I have heard…I believe happiness is love (inside) and I believe success (outside) is creating a life you love…but it starts with love on the inside. With being happy just being, because circumstances will keep changing; that’s life. …and I believe good sex is due to outside factors…common ideas about what you want in bed, a partner who touches you in a way you enjoy (there’s a difference between the “soft lover” and “the big bear hugs person”), a person whose body turns you on…and good lovemaking is about the inside factors (complimentary purposes and values in life, a true love of one another, a wish to truly be together; mind, body and spirit, speaking each other’s love languages so you feel the love in a way you understand, a wish to blend together as one).
For all the gorgeous people in my life: I love you sooooooooooo much!!!!!!! And to all the people on here: thank you so much for your comments, support and smileys
