A problem many of us face is that we are sailing away from one harbor, instead of toward another harbor.
What’s the difference you ask?
One is propelling you forward with negativity and, possibly, sadness.
The other is propelling you forward with want, need, love, desire…
Whenever there’s progress, we leave something behind.
We say goodbye to one job to find another.
We say goodbye to one partner to find another.
We say goodbye to one place to find another.
We do that because we want to upgrade our life, or because we are forced to by circumstance. But even when we know we are leaving for something better, there are usually good things we will miss.
You know why people stay in bad relationships? Even abusive relationships?
Because part of it is good. And possibly they can’t imagine something better due to their previous life experiences/thoughts about self/others.
It’s the same reason they stay in a place, in a job, or even in a relationship with drugs. They can’t imagine something better. They don’t believe. They don’t have faith.
To grow you have to leave the harbor. But more than anything, you have to sail toward a new harbor. Toward something better. Because it’s possible. Even if it hurts.